verb

ingratiate

in-GRAY-shee-ayt/ɪnˈɡreɪʃieɪt/

To gain someone's favor through flattery or pleasing behavior.

He tries to ingratiate himself with his boss through constant praise.

An employee flatters a supervisor with exaggerated praise while seeking favor, realistic restrained body language.
Etymology

“In” and “favor” capture the aim of getting into someone’s good graces, here through deliberate flattery or helpfulness. The immediate source of the English verb is uncertain.

In context

Storytime Haven166:37
couldn’t in any sort of way ingratiate himself.
🌹 Angelica by Elisabeth Sanxay Holding | Classic Suspense Tale 🎭

More examples

  • She ingratiated herself with the neighbors by offering to walk their dogs.
  • Complimenting every suggestion won't ingratiate you with the committee.
  • He's always ingratiating himself with customers in hopes of bigger tips.

Forms

ingratiate · ingratiates · ingratiated · ingratiating

ingratiating adjective — Intended to win approval or favor.

ingratiation noun — Deliberate efforts to win someone's favor.

Similar words

flatter
Emphasizes excessive praise rather than other ways of winning favor.
charm
Wins people over through appeal rather than calculated flattery.