noun
moderator
MAH-duh-ray-ter/ˈmɑːdəreɪtər/
A person who guides a discussion.
The moderator makes sure everyone has a chance to speak.

Etymology
A moderator is literally someone who regulates. The Latin sense of manager or director connects naturally with the later role of presiding over a discussion and keeping its proceedings within bounds.
In context
you are both a moderator and an instigator meaning you will start the fires but you'll also put the fires out you will ask the questions to steer the conversation in the right direction
More examples
- Our moderator keeps the discussion focused on the main question.
- The moderator asks both candidates to explain their plans.
- Two moderators take turns leading the audience discussion.
Forms
moderator · moderators
moderate verb — To guide a discussion and maintain order.
Similar words
- facilitator
- Emphasizes helping a group participate and work together effectively.
- chairperson
- Usually presides over a formal meeting and manages its agenda.